黄帝内经白话文（Huangdi Neijing vernacular）

黄帝内经白话文（Huangdi Neijing vernacular） 黄帝内经白话文(Huangdi Neijing vernacular) Correct treatment of children aged 2-3 rebellion period Many parents have this experience: two or three children to begin to not listen, and parents often talk back, ironic, temper. At the age of three, Almost all the children will be continued for half a year to one year of "resistance", this resistance is a necessary stage of children's psychological development, psychological School known as "the first period of resistance". Outstanding performance is: the psychological development of the seeds appear independent, self consciousness began to develop a strong curiosity, self The Lord's desire, love to do their own thing, do not want others to interfere in their operations, once the opposition and stop being parents, it is easy to Ironically, the phenomenon to produce. Resistance is not necessarily bad habits Experts have done such a study: two to five years old children were divided into two groups, a group of resistance is strong, another group of less resistance. Result Found that the resistance is strong in children, 80% grow up strong independent ability to judge; resistance weaker children, grow up to only 24% Enough self acting, but independent ability to judge what is still relatively weak, often rely on others. Therefore, experts believe that the rebellion sometimes means The children have their independent thinking, without intervention are not disposable, this is a good time for child development judgment, it is the parents attention. If only Only ask the child to obey you, so naturally it is difficult to develop his judgment. So, for two or three to six years old children, the fight is not what bad habits. But why do the parents can not break the shackles of tradition, the courage to Accept the idea of children, and even allow him to disagree with you? Probably because of the so-called self-esteem, face the problem! If you want to That child's resistance is not a rebel, but an expression of his own way, you will not let your false pride, accept the idea of children? So, don't underestimate this not love against period, it is the key period of the child personality, parenting attitude is correct or not, directly Affect children personality formation. So parents should do: 1. understand children, respect for children. Children at the age of two or three, parents love to say "no", this is the first step in the establishment of self and self-esteem, they are aware of their existence, demand Equal status and as adults, the adult and the command arrangements showed increasing selectivity. The actions of their parents do not easily To interfere, do not hurt the child's self-esteem. If the child must obey your wishes, do not use the command tone "to this" or "no way", But with the equal attitude, seek the views of children, for children to stay out of choice. Such as "the cartoon after you go to take a shower, okay?" "You are playing with blocks, or look at the book?" not only to maintain the child's self-esteem, children are willing to listen to you, they will not easily tell you the irony. 2. request should be perfectly logical and reasonable in accordance with the actual situation of children. For example, some things the child must be done, but it is entirely possible, such as what time to eat, what time to go to sleep, Dad Mother do not let children have the choice, must be strictly enforced. There are some things you can do is the child, but he is not willing to go to the children Do, it simply does not require. When the children are playing in the best of spirits, mom and dad must respect the child, solicit opinions, keep thinking to the children Time, or let him down, he promised to do or play, so he can gradually accept. Mom and dad must not be the first compulsory obedience, cause the child Wailed, and then give compliance, or will not obey the requirements of adult children to develop the habit of. As for what time, children, Should not endanger life, health and moral principle". When your instinct is to refuse the child's request, or to surrender the child's resistance behavior, Advise you the word "no" slow export, think about whether the child's request and behavior endangering the life, health and morals, and should not put him on a horse, so May give people some trouble, but think of your patience will get the healthy development of children's personality in return, it is worth! 3. I believe that children, and meet the reasonable requirements of the child's curiosity. Overprotective parents, often result in children that causes. Curiosity, a strong desire to own what children want to Try, what want to do. Excessive acting on their behalf, children will lose many learning opportunities; and blindly blame, stop, what would happen The two phenomena. Parents should trust their children's ability to satisfy his curiosity. For example, he thought the rain to go and play, you give him wearing a raincoat, rubber boots To play it; he wanted his shoes, let him go through, so his shoes and feet when the numbers do not go to help him; to wash the clothes, give him a piece of soap, go with him Wash your own handkerchief, socks; want to sweep the floor, let him sweep, even more and more dirty...... Of course, parents' help is essential, for he cut sleeve Son, Department of shoelaces, stripped off garbage. Trust children, allow them to meet the reasonable demands, and hands-on experience, experience into The joy of work, so that children and parents that do not easily form the habit of irony. 4. not spoiled, and indulge the child. Children love to parents to say "no", this is a normal phenomenon, but if it or it will form a wayward child, obey in every way, arrogant Character. Therefore, as parents, who always use sarcasm to achieve their unreasonable demands of wayward children should: (1) the truth in a calm mood, introducing the relevant knowledge, that can not meet the requirements of his reasons, restrain self willed, stubborn behavior. (2) try to transfer the child's attention, to attract him with another that he was more interested in things, so he gave up the improper requirements. (3) in the case of persuasion failed, made it clear that the attitude of parents: unreasonable demands, again also cannot be satisfied, then leave immediately, With the cold processing method to terminate the child's unreasonable demands. Children 2-3 years old is equivalent to 2/3 of adult brain weight, expanding the scope of activities, enhance social skills, it also produces a new leap of psychological development, set up a truly unique human psychology and consciousness. Psychologically, This is in the development of autonomy, adhere to their own desire period, children have to think of themselves as independent people, rather than the years before completely rely on mother to meet all physiological needs. The children began to realize their own personality, sometimes showing a "stubborn opposition" to the parents, do not listen to others for guidance and orders, often say "no". Children on the one hand to solve specific problems and emotionally dependent on their parents, on the other hand, due to the further development of sensation and perception, began to have a rich intuition thinking, logical thinking and imagination, the will and the performance of individual moral behavior, also began to occur. This is about two years old children's psychological development characteristics. In order to promote the development of their mental health, parents should pay attention to: (1) the children often show stubborn obvious, this is a normal phenomenon in the process of development, should not be restricted. (2) encourage children to explore their own, allowing him to do things yourself, guide him to life some care. (3) to help children solve smoothly control of its function, such as urination and defecation. (4) the children can not disregard the objective reality, put forward a variety of demanding, impossible, no "cattle do not drink strong according to the first" education system, to avoid the child because parents can not achieve the requirements and feel shy, or even resentment and resistance. (5) patient and friendly to answer the question the child, his language ability, language use to develop their mental activities and expand exchanges, continue to meet the requirements of his understanding of the world. (6) to help children successfully solve the sense of independence and depend on the contradiction between the sense of. (7) the children although in a vigorous period of brain development, but is still fragile, do not give too many environmental stimuli, especially not for punishment, frightened, beaten to force children to Yangchangbuduan to look and smile of encouragement. (8) children to ensure adequate sleep, is conducive to the development of physical and mental health. The main method of education by reason, if don't listen to, just as a punishment, to play on the mind, the premise is the mistake he made great play do not end. We must move, reason, and reason. Tell him that his mother is still very love. One of my children stubbornly insist that we do not allow it, I was beaten, he is not convinced to cry, I put him in the toilet until he admit so far. After I affectionately hug him to give him the reasons. Although a little cruel punishment, but after that, the children gradually understand the truth the truth. Insist on not to educate the child is the first two success needs a period of time