EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE & EMOTIONAL COMPETENCE
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE:
A form of intelligence relating to the emotional side of life, such
as the ability to recognize and manage one's own and others'
emotions, to motivate oneself and restrain impulses, and to
handle interpersonal relationships effectively.
• Originated by Daniel Goleman, psychologist, denoting the cluster
of traits/abilities relating to the emotional side of life
• major components of emotional intelligence: knowing our own
emotions, managing our own emotions, motivating ourselves,
recognizing the emotions of others, and handling relationships
The Ten Habits of Emotionally Intelligent People
Copyright 1999 Steve Hein, The EQ Institute - May be copied for educational uses.
High EQ people:
1. Label their feelings, rather than
labeling people or situations.
"I feel impatient." vs. "This is ridiculous."
"I feel hurt and bitter". vs. "You are an
insensitive jerk."
"I feel afraid." vs. "You are driving like a idiot."
2. Distinguish between thoughts and
feelings.
Thoughts: I feel like...& I feel as if.... & I feel
that
Feelings: I feel: (feeling word)
3. Take responsibility for their
feelings.
"I feel jealous." vs. "You are making me jealous."
4. Use their feelings to help them
make decisions.
"How will I feel if I do this?" "How will I feel if I
don't"
5. Show respect for other people's
feelings.
They ask "How will you feel if I do this?" "How
will you feel if I don't."
6. Feel energized, not angry.
They use what others call "anger" to help them
feel energized to take productive action.
7. Validate other people's feelings.
They show empathy, understanding, and
acceptance of other people's feelings.
8. Practice getting a positive value
from their negative emotions.
They ask themselves: "How do I feel?" and
"What would help me feel better?"
They ask others "How do you feel?" and "What
would help you feel better?"
9. Don't advise, command, control,
criticize, judge or lecture to others.
They realize it doesn't feel good to be on the
receiving end of such behavior, so they avoid it.
10. Avoid people who invalidate them,
or don't respect their feelings.
As much as possible, they choose to associate
only with other people with high EQ.
EMOTIONAL COMPETENCE:
"A learned capability based on emotional intelligence that
results in outstanding performance at work. Our emotional
intelligence determines our potential for learning the practical
skills based on the five elements: self-awareness, motivation,
self-regulation, empathy, and adeptness in relationships. Our
emotional competence shows how much of that potential we
have translated into on-the-job capabilities." (Goleman,
Working with Emotional Intelligence)
The table below lists Golemans' 5 dimensions of emotional
intelligence and the 25 emotional competencies.
The emotional intelligence capabilities are Independent (each
contributes to job performance); Interdependent (each draws to some
extent on certain others with strong interactions); Hierarchical (the
emotional intelligence capabilities build upon one another); Necessary,
but not sufficient (having an emotional intelligence doesn't guarantee
the competencies will be demonstrated); Generic (different jobs make
differing competence demands.
THE EMOTIONAL COMPETENCE FRAMEWORK
Personal Competence
SELF-
AWARENESS
• Emotional Awareness: recognizing one's emotions
and their effect
• Accurate Self-assessment: knowing one's
strengths and limits
• Self-confidence: A strong sense of one's self-worth
and capabilities
SELF-
REGULATION
• Self-control: Keeping disruptive emotions and
impulses in check
• Trustworthiness: Maintaining standards of
honesty and integrity
• Conscientiousness: Taking responsibility for
personal performance
• Adaptability: Flexibility in handling change
• Innovation: Being comfortable with novel ideas,
approaches and new information
MOTIVATION
• Achievement drive: Striving to improve or meet a
standard of excellence
• Commitment: Aligning with the goals of the group
or organization
• Initiative: Readiness to act on opportunities
• Optimism: Persistence in pursuing goals despite
obstacles and setbacks
Social Competence
EMPATHY
• Understanding others: sensing others' feelings
and perspectives, taking an active interest in their
concerns
• Developing others: Sensing others development
needs and bolstering their abilities
• Service orientation: Anticipating, recognizing,
and meeting customers' needs
• Leveraging diversity: Cultivating opportunities
through different kinds of people
• Political Awareness: Reading a group's emotional
currents and power relationships
SOCIAL SKILLS
• Influence: Wielding effective tactics for persuasion
• Communication: Listening openly and sending
convincing messages
• Conflict management: Negotiating and resolving
disagreements
• Leadership: Inspiring and guiding individuals and
groups
• Change Catalyst: Initiating or managing change
• Building bonds: Nurturing instrumental
relationships
• Collaboration and cooperation: Working with
others toward shared goals
• Team capabilities: creating group synergy in
pursuing collective goals
The competencies:
PERSONAL COMPETENCE
SELF-AWARENESS
1. Emotional Awareness-- People with this competence:
Know which emotions they are feeling and why
Realize the links between their feelings and what they think and
say
Recognize how their feelings affect their performance
Have a guiding awareness of their values and goals
2. Accurate Self-Assessment -- People with this competence:
Are aware of their strengths and weaknesses
Reflective, learning from experience
Open to candid feedback, new perspectives, continuous learning,
and self-development
Able to show a sense of humor and perspective about
themselves
BLIND SPOTS: Blind Ambition-need to win or be right at any
cost
Unrealistic Goals- sets overly ambitious, unattainable goals for
group
Relentless Striving- compulsively hardworking at expense of all
else, vulnerable to burnout
Drives Others-pushes others too hard, takes over instead of
delegating
Power Hungry- seeks power for own reason rather than for
company
Insatiable need for recognition- addicted to glory-takes credit for
other's work and blames them for mistakes
Preoccupation with Appearance-needs to look good at all costs-
craves material trappings
Need to seem perfect-enraged by or rejects criticism, can't admit
mistakes
3. Self Confidence --People with this competence:
Present themselves with self-assurance; have "presence"
Can voice views that are unpopular and go out on a limb for
what is right
Are decisive, able to make sound decisions despite uncertainties
and pressures
SELF-REGULATION
1. Self-control --People with this competency:
Manage their impulsive feelings and distressing emotions well
Stay composed, positive and unflappable even in trying
moments
Think clearly and stay focused under pressure
2. Trustworthiness and conscientiousness --People with this
competency:
Trustworthiness--Act ethically and are above reproach
Build trust through their reliability and authenticity
Admit their own mistakes and confront unethical actions in
others
Take tough, principled stands even if they are unpopular
Conscientiousness --Meet commitments and keep promises
Hold themselves accountable for meeting their objectives
Are organized and careful in their work
3. Innovation and Adaptability --People with this
competency:
Innovation - Seek out fresh ideas from a wide variety of
sources
Entertain original solutions to problems
Generate new ideas
take fresh perspectives and risks in their thinking
Adaptability - Smoothly handle multiple demands, shifting
priorities, and rapid change
Adapt their responses and tactics to fit fluid circumstances
Are flexible in how they see events
MOTIVATION
1. Achievement Drive --People with this competency:
Are results-oriented, with a high drive to meet their objectives
and standards
Set challenging goals and take calculated risks
Pursue information to reduce uncertainty and find ways to do
things better
Learn how to improve their performance
2. Commitment --People with this competency:
Readily make sacrifices to meet a larger organizational goal
Find a sense of purpose in the larger mission
Use the group's core values in making decisions and clarifying
choices
Actively seek out opportunities to fulfill the group's mission
3. Initiative and Optimism --People with this competency:
Initiative: Are ready to seize opportunities
Pursue goals beyond what's required or expected of them
Cut through red tape and bend the rules when necessary to get
the job done
Mobilize others through unusual, enterprising efforts
Optimism: Persist in seeking goals despite obstacles and
setbacks
Operate from hope of success rather than fear of failure
See setbacks as due to manageable circumstance rather than
personal flaw
SOCIAL COMPETENCE
EMPATHY
1. Understanding Others --People with this competency:
Are attentive to emotional cues and listen well
Show sensitivity and understand others' perspectives
Help out based on understanding other people's needs and
feelings
2. Developing Others --People with this competency:
Acknowledge and reward people's strengths and
accomplishments
Offer useful feedback and identify people's needs for further
growth
Mentor, give timely coaching, and offer assignments that
challenge and foster a person's skills
3. Service Orientation --People with this competency:
Understand customers/clients needs and math them to services
of products
Seek ways to increase customers' satisfaction and loyalty
Gladly offer appropriate assistance
Grasp a customer's perspective, acting as a trusted advisor
4. Leveraging Diversity --People with this competency:
Respect and relate well to people from varied backgrounds
Understand diverse worldviews and are sensitive to group
differences
See diversity as opportunity, creating an environment where
diverse people can thrive
Challenge bias and intolerance
5. Political Awareness --People with this competency:
Accurately read key power relationships
Detect crucial social networks
Understand the forces that shape views and actions of clients,
customers, or competitors
Accurately read organizational and external realities
SOCIAL SKILLS
1. Influence --People with this competency:
Are skilled at winning people over
Fine-tune presentations to appeal to the listener
Use complex strategies like indirect influence to build consensus
and support
Orchestrate dramatic events to effectively make a point
2. Communication --People with this competence
Are effective in give-and-take, registering emotional cues in
attuning their message
Deal with difficult issues straightforwardly
Listen well, seek mutual understanding, and welcome sharing of
information fully
Foster open communication and stay receptive to bad news as
well as good
3. Conflict Management --People with this competency:
Handle difficult people and tense situations with diplomacy and
tact
Spot potential conflict, bring disagreements into the open and
help to de-escalate
Encourage debate and open discussion
Orchestrate win-win solutions
4. Leadership --People with this competency:
Articulate and arouse enthusiasm for a shared vision and mission
Step forward to lead as needed, regardless of position
Guide the performance of others while holding them accountable
Lead by example
5. Change Catalyst --People with this competency:
Recognize the need to change and remove barriers
Challenge the status quo to acknowledge the need for change
Champion the change and enlist others in its pursuit
Model the change expected of others
6. Building Bonds --People with this competency:
Cultivate and maintain extensive informal networks
Seek out relationships that are mutually beneficial
Build rapport and keep others in the loop
Make and maintain personal friendships among work associates
7. Collaboration and Cooperation --People with this
competency:
Balance a focus on task with attention to relationships
Collaborate, sharing plans, information and resources
Promote a friendly, cooperative climate
Spot and nurture opportunities for collaboration
8. Team Capabilities --People with this competency:
Model team qualities like respect, helpfulness, and cooperation
Draw all members into active and enthusiastic participation
Build team identity, esprit de corps, and commitment
Protect the group and its reputation, share credit
RESOURCES:
Books:
Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman (1995), Working with
Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman (1998)
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