Getting Married in College is a Good Idea

GettingMarriedinCollegeisaGoodIdea:WhileyoungmarriageistypicallylookeddownuponinAmericansociety,manycollegestudentsarereapingthebenefitsofmarriagewhileinschool.Despitethefactthatthesemarriagesmaybelabeledasan"impendingfailure,"youngmarriagesproducemanybenefitsthatarenotalwaysconsidered.Outlinedbelowareseveralofthebenefitsthatcomefromgettingmarriedatayoungage:1.CombinedincomeandexpensesManycouplesputoffmarriagebecause"it'stooexpensive."Whiletheweddingceremonyitselfmaybecostly,livingtogetheraftermarriageisnot.Infact,coupleswhomarrywillfindthattheirexpensesmayactuallydecreasefromthetimetheyspentengaged.Thisisduetocombinedincome,rent,andfooditems.Insteadofhavingtobuytwogallonsofmilkeachweek,coupleswillonlyhavetobuyone.Theywon'tneedtwocouches,ortwobeds,ortwosetsofdishes.Bymarrying,coupleswillfindthattheyareabletogetridofduplicateitemswhichwillsavethemspaceandprovidethemwithextracash.Theyalsowillnotneedtocontinuepurchasingdoublegroceriesbecausemanyitemsareabletobeshared,suchasmilk(asnotedabove),eggs,flour,andotherbakinggoods.2.FinancialAidFinancialAid,apositivecollegebenefit,isavailableformostcollegestudents.However,therearespecialgrantsandscholarshipsavailablespecificallyforstudentswhoaremarried.Manystudentswhoaremarriedwhileattendingcollegewillqualifyas"non-traditionalstudents,"whichopensupopportunitiesforuniquescholarships.FormoreinformationonspecialPellgrantsorscholarshipsatyourschool,visityourfinancialaidofficeandasksaboutbenefitsformarriedstudents.3.MorechancesoffertilityThechancesofconceivingachildgreatlydecreaseasapersonages.Whileyoungpeoplestillexperiencefertilityproblems,thechancesofbeingabletoconceiveachildwithoutmedicalinterventionarehigherifacoupledecidestohavechildrenintheirearly20s,ratherthantheirlate30s.4.AbilitytogrowandchangetogetherThere'sanoldsayingthatyouaren'tthesamepersonat30thatyouwereat25,sogettingmarriedat25isabaddecision.Whileit'struethatwe,ashumans,areconstantlychanging,it'salsotruethatayoungmarriagecanlastyearsifthecoupleenterstherelationshipwiththeunderstandingthattheycangrowTOGETHER.Whileit'snormaltohavedifferentlifeexperiences,bymarryingyoung,acouplecanexperiencethosethingstogether(whetherthatbegraduation,jobchanges,familyissues,orpersonaldiscoveries)andinthosesharedexperiences,thecouplecangrowclosertooneanother.5.DiscoveringyourselvestogetherThecollegeyearsareoftenviewedas"theyearsofdiscovery."Itisduringtheseformativeyearsthatmostpeoplearedecidingwhattheywanttobewhentheygrowup,wheretheywanttolive,andwhethertheywanttohavecareersorafamilyfirst.Havingacompanionduringtheseformativeyearscanbeverybeneficialbecauseit'ssoeasytofeellostandaloneduringthistime.Manycollegestudentsfeelthatnooneelseunderstandswhattheyaregoingthrough,andbyhavingaspouseclosebytoencourageandupliftthem,thediscoveryperiodcanbebotheasierandlesstraumatic.Thereisanewlydissensionputtingforwardthesedays:IsitlegallyallowedforChineseon-campusstudentstogetmarriedbeforetheycompletetheircourses?Somepeopleprefer"yes"whilesomeothersprefer"no".Certainlyalargenumberofpeoplejustcannotdecidewhichsidetheyshouldbestand.Infact,thegovernmentsallowon-campusstudentstogetmarriedbeforetheycompletetheircourse.Thereisn‘taregulationproclaimedinwritingtoforbidmarriageofon-campusstudents.Butitmustaffectthosetriers.Inmyopinion,itisunnecessarytoforbidon-campusstudentstogetmarriedbeforetheyfinishedtheircollege,however,itshouldn‘tbeadvocatedorencouraged.Because,foron-campusstudents,theirplaytheroleaslearners.Theirmaintaskistolearn.Iftheymarried,theirschoolworkmustbeaffectedandtheymaynotgraduatefavorablyormaynotbecapableforfutureworks.So,Ibelieve:almostallon-campusstudentswoulddealwiththequestionreasoninglyThereisnodenyingthefactthatitisahotlydebatedtopictodaywhethercollegestudentsshouldbeallowedtogetmarried.Sometimeago,thebanwasliftedbysomeuniversitiesonstudentsgettingmarried.Tothispeople’sattitudesdiffersharply.Someholdthepositiveview.Theysaythatmostcollegestudentsareadultsandthatitisabasicrightforthosewhohavereachedtheappropriateagestogetmarried.Besides,theyarguethatwiththeirbiologicalandemotionalneedsmet,thesestudentswillstudybetter.Thebanonthismeansasevereviolationofhumanrights.Manyothers,however,holdthenegativeoppositeview.Theyclaimthattheuniversityorcollegeisaplacetostudyinsteadofacommunitytoleadfamilylife.Allowingcollegestudentstogetmarriedwouldadverselyaffecttheirstudy.Forinstance,theywouldspendtoomuchtimeattendingtheirfamilyandlove,unabletoconcentrateontheirschoolwork.AsfarasIamconcerned,Weighingtheargumentsofbothsides,Ibelievethatcollegestudentsshouldnotbeallowedtogetmarried.Thoughmostlyadults,theyareactuallyimmaturepsychologically.Theirwishestogetmarriedare,moreoftenthannot,impulses.Besides,asstudents,theyarenotreadytosupportafamilyfinancially.在2007年，人口计生委、教育部和公安部就联合发文，对在校已婚女大学生生育问题进行 规定 关于下班后关闭电源的规定党章中关于入党时间的规定公务员考核规定下载规定办法文件下载宁波关于闷顶的规定 。文件规定，女大学生生育期间可以办理休学手续，高校不得予以退学。在校期间所生子女的户口可在该子女的祖父母或者外祖父母常住户口所在地申报。对于允许在校已婚大学生生育，不同的人，站在各自不同的角度，有不同的见解，这些都是正常的。有的人认为允许在校大学生生育是人性化的表现，也有的人认为这是过份宽容。而我在想，既然人口计生委、教育部和公安部联合发文允许大学生生育，我相信一定是经过深思熟虑才决定的，肯定是有一定道理的。不过对于此事，我心中一直有一个疑问：大学生生了孩子谁来养呢？无容置疑，大学生通常是没有自己固定的经济收入的，如果学业都没毕业就生了孩子，那么势必要休学回家带孩子，那么养孩子的经济费用从哪来呢？是孩子的父亲？那如果孩子的父亲也是一名大学生呢？那么谁来支付养孩子的费用呢？有的人也许会说，那孩子的外公外婆或是爷爷奶奶来提借经济来源。唉，要知道有多少父母会愿意自己辛苦培养出来的大学生，还没毕业就往家里抱个孩子呢？按传统观念来说，这还是不会被大家欣然接受的事情，再说了，现在养一个孩子的费用可不低啊，有的家庭原本经济基础就不好，这时再突然添加一个孩子，势必会给家庭造成一定的负担，也会增加很多矛盾，孩子在这样的环境与气氛下也难以健康快乐地成长。另外，女大学生们，人生经验不足、社会阅力也浅，在大学期间就匆忙生了孩子，难免给人以草率之感，万一以后后悔了可就晚了。而且现在的社会，大学生们就业原本就难，而女大学生们就更难了。如果大学期间生了孩子，再耽误几年去带孩子，然后再去完成学业，去找工作的难度势必更大了。在现在这个社会，女人也应该有自己固定的经济收入，不能年纪轻轻就靠别人来养活，这样的日子很难让人过得踏实。生了孩子就得好好地把孩子养大，只是女大学生们一旦生了孩子，想好好把孩子养大的难度可不会小。在我看来，除非自己有经济基础，否则还是不要轻易地在求学期间生育孩子为好，生了孩子就要自己来养孩子，把孩子生下来交给别人来养，对孩子是一种极不负责任的行为。In2007,thePopulationandFamilyPlanningCommission,theMinistryofEducationandtheMinistryofPublicSecurityjointlyissuedadocument,thefertilityofthemarriedfemalecollegestudentsintheschoolregulations.Thedocumentstipulatesthatthereproductiveperiodoffemalecollegestudentscanapplyforleaveofabsenceprocedures,universitiesmaynotbeexpelled.Inschoolchildrenbornduringtheaccountcanbedeclaredinthechild'sgrandparentsormaternalgrandparentspermanentresidence.Allowsthefertilityofmarriedcollegestudentsintheschool,differentpeople,standingontheirdifferentperspectives,differentviews,thesearenormal.Somepeoplethinkthatallowscollegestudentsinfertilityistheperformanceofhumane,andsomepeoplethinkthisisexcessivetolerance.IPopulationandFamilyPlanningCommission,MinistryofEducationandtheMinistryofPublicSecurityjointlyissuedadocumenttoallowStudentsfertility,Ibelievethatmustbedecidedaftercarefulconsideration,iscertainlyagrainoftruth.Forthis,Ialwayshaveadoubt:collegestudentsbirthtoachildwhoisgoingtoraise?Again,studentsusuallydonotownafixedincome,iftheschoolnevergraduatedfromthebirthofachild,itisboundtoleaveofabsencetogohomewithchildren,thenraisetheeconomiccostsofthechildrencomefromit?Isthefatherofthechild?Ifthechild'sfatherisacollegestudent?Sowhoshouldpayforthecostofraisingchildren?Somepeoplemightsaythatthechild'sgrandparentsorgrandparentstomention,bysourceofincome.Iwanttoknowhowmanyparentswouldbewillingtohard-trainedcollegestudentsbeforegraduatingtogooutintothehousetoholdachild?Bythetraditionalconcept,thisisnottobepleasedtoacceptthethings,say,thecostofraisingachildfromtimetolow-ah,somefamilies,theoriginaleconomicbaseisnotgood,thensuddenlyaddachildisboundtocausesomeburdentothefamily,willaddalotofcontradictions,andchildreninsuchanenvironmentandatmosphere,itisdifficulttogrowuphealthyandhappy.Inaddition,femalecollegestudents,andlackoflifeexperience,socialreadingpowerisalsoshallow,hastilybirthtoachildincollege,oftengiverisetoasloppysenseof,iflaterregretitmaytoolate.Andsocial,collegestudentsemploymentwasoriginallydifficult,whilethefemalecollegestudentsisevenharder.Thecollegegavebirthtoachild,todelayforafewyearstogowithchildren,andthengotocompletetheirstudiesmoredifficulttofindworkisboundtoevengreater.Inthissociety,awomanshouldhavetheirownfixedincomecannotbeyoungtorelyonotherstofeed,sothedaysofthehardlifeatease.Birthofachildhavetotaketoraisethebaby,theonlyfemalecollegestudentshaveababy,wanttotaketoraiseachildwithgreatdifficultycannotbesmall.Inmyopinion,unlesstheyhavetheeconomicbase,orstilldonoteasilygivebirthduringthestudychild,birthofachildisnecessarytoraiseachild,thechildwasborntosomeoneelsetoraisechildrenisanextremelyirresponsiblebehavior.