世说心语如何让孩子超越恋母情结（Shi Shuo Xinyu how to let the child go beyond the Oedipus complex）

世说心语如何让孩子超越恋母情结（Shi Shuo Xinyu how to let the child go beyond the Oedipus complex） 世说心语如何让孩子超越恋母情结(Shi Shuo Xinyu how to let the child go beyond the Oedipus complex) Shi Shuo Xinyu: how to let the child go beyond the Oedipus complex.Txt yesterday is a canceled check; tomorrow is a promissory note yet to be fulfilled; today is the only cash, at any time in order to fulfill all. People always love to deceive ourselves, because it more easily than to deceive others. Shi Shuo Xinyu: how to let the children go beyond the Oedipus complex in November 27, 2008 13:15 ifeng.com [small] [print Zhuangao] Related tags: [] [] [Liu Shi Shuo Xinyu Oedipus complex. Liu Yong: Hello, audience. Today, Liu Yong talks about "beyond fifth". The subject is "transcending the Oedipus complex"". Life, there are many things that have to be transcended. The first thing to go beyond is the innate love complex. Ladies and gentlemen, you might have taken a jump at first. How many people in this world would you like to love? But I have to tell you that every one of us grows up from age to age and may have a latent Oedipus complex. It can also be said that we were born in the mother's arms, not grow up, and out of the mother out of independence, the struggle between the two tug of war. Yes, my mother's bosom is so warm, safe, protected and milk free. How hard it is to be outside, to fight, to fight, and to take risks. Fortunately, the strength towards independence is greater, so that most children can leave their parents to have a family, become a father and mother, take care of the next generation, human beings can progress, and life can multiply. Nevertheless, the psychology of Oedipus complex is always in our life constantly emerge, for example, a lot of people up in the morning, even in the work, but also shrink in bed inside, do not want to face the outside world, like a baby, want to return to my mother's belly. I've even heard people say that if you knew that there was so much trouble in the world, you would have gone back to your mother's stomach and refused to be born. Also, if you have not seen at home, may also be seen in the movies, some of the big man, will hold in the arms of his wife, he is a big man, he is likely to be on the outside but magnificent domineering, back home, wife might want to hug a hug, hug. He would feel much more comfortable lying on his wife's arm, even at that moment, and at that moment his wife took on some kind of mother's comfort. No human mother ah, animal mother, you look at this picture, you know who has repeatedly come to China to white haired old lady? When she was young can be beautiful, but the beautiful British girl, more than 20 years old actually went to Africa Tanzania woods, spent many years of chimpanzee, the time is CHIMPANZEE, she is the famous biologist Jegud ms.. That year, Jane Goodall observed a lot of the chimpanzee family, and even recorded the lives of the chimpanzee in a movie way, and had a surprising discovery. For example, I thought earlier that only human beings could use tools. But Jane Goodall photographed chimpanzee will find out into the long grass, white ants nest inside, and then pull out, eat onto white ants eat; when chimpanzee to drink the water in the hole, it will go on with the hay plug, then soak wet grass and then pull it out, and then squeeze the above drink water. What impressed me most was that Jane Goodall filmed a documentary about the chimpanzee family. The little orangutan was born, and the mother was like a human being. Every day she held her in her arms and took care of her. The little chimp grew up, or closely holding mother's hand, even mom and dad sat in the tree, the little chimp to middle crowded, when the light bulb. But one day, my mother was sick, go to the water to drink, even fell in the river died, bonobos come to find the mother, the mother of course no response, I saw this little chimpanzee pulled my mother's body jump again again a few days later, should not eat, drink, sleep, also fell in Jane Goodall in front of the camera. This picture is not said in the German philosopher Nitzsch said, we evolved from reptiles from apes, apes evolved into humans, But do we still have apes in it? In ape, we see the weakness of human nature, and we can also see ape in our body, including the mother of ape. Not only apes, probably the animal will ah, and mother, deer, horse, elephant, natural born to go chasing mother; dolphins will be close to mom and swim in the water, the chicken will hide in her mother's wings. But no matter how much they love for mother, but no matter how much they love their mother, my mother how to love their children, have an innate instinct, let the mother know what time the children out of independence. I have observed outside the windows of the birds, the sparrow mother with just flying sparrow, to my bird feeder inside to eat, at first a small sparrow stood on the branches do not move, waiting for my mother to feed, there quack quack. Gradually, the little sparrow grew up, almost as big as his mother and father, but still on the branch with wings, big mouth "quack quack" call, to mother feeding. But my mother knew the children grow up, can't feed themselves, to my feeder inside to eat, and then fly away, don't fly to the small sparrow side, this time a small sparrow will fly to the mother to feed mother. At first, my mother also managed to feed two, but after two days, if a small sparrow also to my mother, my mother will jump a small sparrow sparrow, and the sparrow suddenly turned back after the past, mother "Titicaca" peck the little sparrow, took the children away. Even birds know how to force children independent, people can not understand it? From the parents' point of view, you can't always treat the child as a baby. You should let him decide, let him be independent, let him be responsible and let him out. From the perspective of the children, even if your mom and Dad love you every step with you to grow up, and always think of you as a child, what things are going to help you decide, do not seem to hope you grow up, you should also know that people must be independent. You young friends in front of the television, you do not say is to see here, turned to your father and mother said, look, Liu said, we can take the lead. When you say this, think about whether you are really independent or only a small part of yourself Very simple. Did you get up in the morning? Would you dial the alarm clock the other night and say to yourself, "I don't need my mother to call, the alarm clock rings, I'll get up myself.". But only a few hours, the alarm clock to continue your sleep, even mom and dad to call you, you have to groan and moan covered his head, not happy; or else you're up, still sitting there morose, or is there a up gas, like the family owes you. Think about it, can an independent person do that? If you go to war, the middle of the night shot, the enemy came in, but also help you stay in bed, morose? I remember more than 20 years ago an American movie broadcast news, which played a TV woman, out of the news reports of civil war, the bullet sang so that it flies, photographers are hiding in the ground, the woman stood not afraid, call the reporter shooting. There is a picture of the woman in the morning before going out, suddenly sit veiled cry, just cry out to dry the tears, rushed to the lift with chest and head high. Can be said that the female director in a moment before retreating Oedipus, after a moment of independence and courage, each person may have life in the tug of war between the two. No matter how strong a person, which is hidden in a child's mind, may be in the emergency with pain, can't help shouting "OMG", in order to let yourself beyond the birthright of Oedipus complex, we must face to the outside world. That's all for today. Thank you all