当好称职父母的十大原则

【社会人文】当好称职父母的十大原则（ 全文 企业安全文化建设方案企业安全文化建设导则安全文明施工及保证措施创建安全文明校园实施方案创建安全文明工地监理工作情况 已译，图文并茂） http://www.emedicinehealth.com/slideshow_principles_of_good_parenting/article_em.htm Slideshow: 10 Principles of Good Parenting Introduction to Healthy Parenting Raising a happy, healthy child is one of the most challenging and rewarding jobs a parent can have. Yet many of us don't approach parenting with the same focus we would use for a job. We may act on our gut reactions or just use the same parenting techniques our own parents used, whether or not these were effective parenting skills. In his book The Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting, Laurence Steinberg, PhD, a distinguished professor of psychology at Temple University in Philadelphia, provides tips and guidelines based on some 75 years of social science research. Follow them and you can avert all sorts of child behavior problems, he says. What You Do Matters Whether it's your own health behaviors or the way you treat other people, your children are learning from what you do. "This is one of the most important principles," Steinberg explains. "What you do makes a difference...Don't just react on the spur of the moment. Ask yourself, What do I want to accomplish, and is this likely to produce that result?" You Cannot Be Too Loving "It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love," Steinberg writes. "What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love -- things like leniency, lowered expectations, or material possessions." Be Involved in Your Child's Life "Being an involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often means rethinking and rearranging your priorities. It frequently means sacrificing what you want to do for what your child needs to do. Be there mentally as well as physically." Being involved does not mean doing a child's homework -- or correcting it. "Homework is a tool for teachers to know whether the child is learning or not," Steinberg says. "If you do the homework, you're not letting the teacher know what the child is learning." Adapt Your Parenting to Fit Your Child Keep pace with your child's development. Your child is growing up. Consider how age is affecting the child's behavior. "The same drive for independence that is making your 3-year-old say 'no' all the time is what's motivating him to be toilet trained," writes Steinberg. "The same intellectual growth spurt that is making your 13-year-old curious and inquisitive in the classroom also is making her argumentative at the dinner table." Establish and Set Rules "If you don't manage your child's behavior when he is young, he will have a hard time learning how to manage himself when he is older and you aren't around. Any time of the day or night, you should always be able to answer these three questions: Where is my child? Who is with my child? What is my child doing? The rules your child has learned from you are going to shape the rules he applies to himself. "But you can't micromanage your child," Steinberg notes. "Once they're in middle school, you need to let the child do their own homework, make their own choices, and not intervene." Foster Your Child's Independence "Setting limits helps your child develop a sense of self-control. Encouraging independence helps your child develop a sense of self-direction. To be successful in life, he's going to need both." It's normal for children to push for autonomy, says Steinberg. "Many parents mistakenly equate their child's independence with rebelliousness or disobedience. Children push for independence because it is part of human nature to want to feel in control rather than to feel controlled by someone else." Be Consistent "If your rules vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child's misbehavior is your fault, not his. Your most important disciplinary tool is consistency. Identify your non-negotiables. The more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it." Avoid Harsh Discipline Parents should never hit a child, under any circumstances, Steinberg says. "Children who are spanked, hit, or slapped are more prone to fighting with other children," he writes. "They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes with others." "There are many other ways to discipline a child -- including 'time out' -- which work better and do not involve aggression." Explain Your Rules and Decisions "Good parents have expectations they want their child to live up to," he writes. "Generally, parents over-explain to young children and under-explain to adolescents. What is obvious to you may not be evident to a 12-year-old. He doesn't have the priorities, judgment, or experience that you have." Treat Your Child With Respect "The best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him respectfully," Steinberg writes. "You should give your child the same courtesies you would give to anyone else. Speak to him politely. Respect his opinion. Pay attention when he is speaking to you. Treat him kindly. Try to please him when you can. Children treat others the way their parents treat them. You are modeling behaviors that your child will emulate. Your relationship with your child is the foundation for her relationships with others." Rewards of Good Parenting Good parenting helps foster empathy, honesty, self-reliance, self-control, kindness, cooperation, and cheerfulness, says Steinberg. It also promotes intellectual curiosity, motivation, and encourages a desire to achieve. Good parenting also helps protect children from developing anxiety, depression, eating disorders, antisocial behavior, and alcohol and drug abuse. Slideshow: 10 Principles of Good Parenting 试译，请指正。 10 Principles of Good Parenting 当好称职父母的十大原则 Introduction to Healthy Parenting Raising a happy, healthy child is one of the most challenging and rewarding jobs a parent can have. Yet many of us don't approach parenting with the same focus we would use for a job. We may act on our gut reactions or just use the same parenting techniques our own parents used, whether or not these were effective parenting skills. In his book The Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting, Laurence Steinberg, PhD, a distinguished professor of psychology at Temple University in Philadelphia, provides tips and guidelines based on some 75 years of social science research. Follow them and you can avert all sorts of child behavior problems, he says. 引言 养育一个快乐健康的孩子既是父母一项最具挑战性的工作之一，也是一项最有意义的工作之一。 然而我们许多父母却不得要领。我们可能仅凭直觉或从我们父母哪儿学来的方法来管教孩子，而 不顾其效果如何。坦普尔大学著名心理学教授 Laurence Steinberg博士撰写的《正确养育孩子的 十大基本原则》一书，集 75年的社会科学研究之大成，为我们提供了一些技巧和指南。如作者 所言，遵循这些原则，你便可以避免孩子出现各种各样的行为问 题 快递公司问题件快递公司问题件货款处理关于圆的周长面积重点题型关于解方程组的题及答案关于南海问题 。 What You Do Matters Whether it's your own health behaviors or the way you treat other people, your children are learning from what you do. "This is one of the most important principles," Steinberg explains. "What you do makes a difference...Don't just react on the spur of the moment. Ask yourself, What do I want to accomplish, and is this likely to produce that result?" 你的所作所为至关重要 无论是你的自言自行还是接人待物的方式，都是你孩子学习的对象。“这是最为重要的原则之一， 你的言行可能能够产生截然不同的结果。不要一时冲动，要扪心自问：我到底想做什么？又能否 达到预期结果？” Steinberg解释道。 You Cannot Be Too Loving "It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love," Steinberg writes. "What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love -- things like leniency, lowered expectations, or material possessions." 爱无止境 Steinberg在书中写道：“显而易见，爱不可能宠坏孩子。大多数情况下，孩子被宠坏绝不是孩子 接受太多爱的结果。而常常是父母用其他的东西替代了爱，如惩罚不严、期望不高或物质财富。” Be Involved in Your Child's Life "Being an involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often means rethinking and rearranging your priorities. It frequently means sacrificing what you want to do for what your child needs to do. Be there mentally as well as physically." Being involved does not mean doing a child's homework -- or correcting it. "Homework is a tool for teachers to know whether the child is learning or not," Steinberg says. "If you do the homework, you're not letting the teacher know what the child is learning." 参与孩子生活 “参与到孩子的生活中去，是一件既费时又费力的事情。这意味着需要重新考虑和安排你的重要 事情，这也意味着可能会时常为了孩子而牺牲自己想做的事情，包括身心两方面的事情。” 参与孩子生活绝不是代劳孩子的家庭作业，而是改正家庭作业的错误。“家庭作业是老师用来了 解孩子是否学习的工具。如果你为孩子代劳，则是不让老师了解到孩子是否学习。” Adapt Your Parenting to Fit Your Child Keep pace with your child's development. Your child is growing up. Consider how age is affecting the child's behavior. "The same drive for independence that is making your 3-year-old say 'no' all the time is what's motivating him to be toilet trained," writes Steinberg. "The same intellectual growth spurt that is making your 13-year-old curious and inquisitive in the classroom also is making her argumentative at the dinner table." 让你的养育方法适合孩子 与孩子的发育成长保持同步。孩子逐渐长大，要关注孩子年龄增长对其行为的影响。 “对自立的向往使得 3岁小孩总是在说„不‟，也会使他接受自己使用厕所的训练；与之类似，处于 智力快速发育的 13岁孩子在课堂上头脑里充满奇思怪想，同样的原因也会使他在餐桌上口枪舌 剑。” Establish and Set Rules "If you don't manage your child's behavior when he is young, he will have a hard time learning how to manage himself when he is older and you aren't around. Any time of the day or night, you should always be able to answer these three questions: Where is my child? Who is with my child? What is my child doing? The rules your child has learned from you are going to shape the rules he applies to himself. "But you can't micromanage your child," Steinberg notes. "Once they're in middle school, you need to let the child do their own homework, make their own choices, and not intervene." 建立 规则 编码规则下载淘宝规则下载天猫规则下载麻将竞赛规则pdf麻将竞赛规则pdf “你如果在孩子小的时候没有控制他的行为，那么当他长大后不在你身边时，他将难以学会自我 控制。任何时候，你都应该能够回答下列三个问题：我的孩子在哪儿？我的孩子跟谁在一起？我 的孩子在做什么？孩子从你哪儿所养成的规则将影响他的自律规则。” “但是，对孩子不能事无巨细。当他们是中学生时，应该让他们自己独立完成家庭作业，做出他 们自己选择，不要干预。” Foster Your Child's Independence "Setting limits helps your child develop a sense of self-control. Encouraging independence helps your child develop a sense of self-direction. To be successful in life, he's going to need both." It's normal for children to push for autonomy, says Steinberg. "Many parents mistakenly equate their child's independence with rebelliousness or disobedience. Children push for independence because it is part of human nature to want to feel in control rather than to feel controlled by someone else." 鼓励孩子独立 “设定限制有助于培养孩子的自控意识，鼓励独立则有助于培养孩子的自我导向意识。要想孩子 拥有成功人生，两者不可或缺。” 孩子争取自主是正常行为。“许多父母错误地将孩子的独立等同于叛逆，孩子争取自立是寻求控 制而非被别人控制的感受，这是人类天性的一部分。” Be Consistent "If your rules vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child's misbehavior is your fault, not his. Your most important disciplinary tool is consistency. Identify your non-negotiables. The more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it." 始终如一 “如果你制定的规则朝令夕改、虎头蛇尾，那么孩子出现的不当行为则是你的过错，而非孩子。 你最为重要的纪律工具就是始终如一，要亮明你不可商量的态度。你的权威性越多地基于脑子而 非拳头，你的孩子对权威性的挑战就会越少。” Avoid Harsh Discipline Parents should never hit a child, under any circumstances, Steinberg says. "Children who are spanked, hit, or slapped are more prone to fighting with other children," he writes. "They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes with others." "There are many other ways to discipline a child -- including 'time out' -- which work better and do not involve aggression." 避免严厉惩罚 父母不论在什么情况下都不应打孩子。“孩子受体罚越多，则与对其他孩子打斗的倾向越大，他 们就更有可能成为小霸王，更喜欢通过武力解决争端。” “更为有效的管教孩子方式有多种，包括面壁思过，不要采取攻击行为。” Explain Your Rules and Decisions "Good parents have expectations they want their child to live up to," he writes. "Generally, parents over-explain to young children and under-explain to adolescents. What is obvious to you may not be evident to a 12-year-old. He doesn't have the priorities, judgment, or experience that you have." 解释你的规则和决定 “好的父母对孩子未来发展目标有所期待。一般说来，父母对小孩说教过多，而对青少年则说教 不足。对你来说显而易见的道理，对一个 12岁的孩子则未必十分清楚，他不具备你所拥有的优 先权、判断或经验。” Treat Your Child With Respect "The best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him respectfully," Steinberg writes. "You should give your child the same courtesies you would give to anyone else. Speak to him politely. Respect his opinion. Pay attention when he is speaking to you. Treat him kindly. Try to please him when you can. Children treat others the way their parents treat them. You are modeling behaviors that your child will emulate. Your relationship with your child is the foundation for her relationships with others." 尊重孩子 “得到孩子尊重的最佳途径就是尊重孩子。你对别人的谦恭言行也应给予自己的孩子。跟孩子有 礼貌地讲话、尊重他的意见、耐心听他说话、友善相处，尽可能使他高兴。孩子会以父母对待自 己的方式对待别人，你是孩子的行为模范，你与孩子的关系是他与他人关系的基础。 Rewards of Good Parenting Good parenting helps foster empathy, honesty, self-reliance, self-control, kindness, cooperation, and cheerfulness, says Steinberg. It also promotes intellectual curiosity, motivation, and encourages a desire to achieve. Good parenting also helps protect children from developing anxiety, depression, eating disorders, antisocial behavior, and alcohol and drug abuse. 良好养育的回报 良好的养育有助于孩子同情心、诚实、自立、自控、仁慈、合作以及愉快人格的养成，也有助于 促进孩子求知欲、积极性的提升以及激发对成功的渴望。良好的养育还有助于孩子远离焦虑、抑 郁、不良饮食习惯、反社会行为以及酒精和***滥用。 Introduction to Healthy Parenting Raising a happy, healthy child is one of the most challenging and rewarding jobs a parent can have. Yet many of us don't approach parenting with the same focus we would use for a job. We may act on our gut reactions or just use the same parenting techniques our own parents used, whether or not these were effective parenting skills. In his book The Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting, Laurence Steinberg, PhD, a distinguished professor of psychology at Temple University in Philadelphia, provides tips and guidelines based on some 75 years of social science research. Follow them and you can avert all sorts of child behavior problems, he says. What You Do Matters Whether it's your own health behaviors or the way you treat other people, your children are learning from what you do. "This is one of the most important principles," Steinberg explains. "What you do makes a difference...Don't just react on the spur of the moment. Ask yourself, What do I want to accomplish, and is this likely to produce that result?" You Cannot Be Too Loving "It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love," Steinberg writes. "What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love -- things like leniency, lowered expectations, or material possessions." Be Involved in Your Child's Life "Being an involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often means rethinking and rearranging your priorities. It frequently means sacrificing what you want to do for what your child needs to do. Be there mentally as well as physically." Being involved does not mean doing a child's homework -- or correcting it. "Homework is a tool for teachers to know whether the child is learning or not," Steinberg says. "If you do the homework, you're not letting the teacher know what the child is learning." Adapt Your Parenting to Fit Your Child Keep pace with your child's development. Your child is growing up. Consider how age is affecting the child's behavior. "The same drive for independence that is making your 3-year-old say 'no' all the time is what's motivating him to be toilet trained," writes Steinberg. "The same intellectual growth spurt that is making your 13-year-old curious and inquisitive in the classroom also is making her argumentative at the dinner table." Establish and Set Rules "If you don't manage your child's behavior when he is young, he will have a hard time learning how to manage himself when he is older and you aren't around. Any time of the day or night, you should always be able to answer these three questions: Where is my child? Who is with my child? What is my child doing? The rules your child has learned from you are going to shape the rules he applies to himself. 1）我的小孩现在哪儿？ 2）我的小孩跟谁在一起？ 3）我的小孩在做什么呢？ "But you can't micromanage your child," Steinberg notes. "Once they're in middle school, you need to let the child do their own homework, make their own choices, and not intervene." Foster Your Child's Independence "Setting limits helps your child develop a sense of self-control. Encouraging independence helps your child develop a sense of self-direction. To be successful in life, he's going to need both." 设限和鼓励二者都需要。 It's normal for children to push for autonomy, says Steinberg. "Many parents mistakenly equate their child's independence with rebelliousness or disobedience. Children push for independence because it is part of human nature to want to feel in control rather than to feel controlled by someone else." Be Consistent "If your rules vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child's misbehavior is your fault, not his. Your most important disciplinary tool is consistency. Identify your non-negotiables. The more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it." Avoid Harsh Discipline Parents should never hit a child, under any circumstances, Steinberg says. "Children who are spanked, hit, or slapped are more prone to fighting with other children," he writes. "They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes with others." "There are many other ways to discipline a child -- including 'time out' -- which work better and do not involve aggression." Explain Your Rules and Decisions "Good parents have expectations they want their child to live up to," he writes. "Generally, parents over-explain to young children and under-explain to adolescents. What is obvious to you may not be evident to a 12-year-old. He doesn't have the priorities, judgment, or experience that you have." Treat Your Child With Respect "The best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him respectfully," Steinberg writes. "You should give your child the same courtesies you would give to anyone else. Speak to him politely. Respect his opinion. Pay attention when he is speaking to you. Treat him kindly. Try to please him when you can. Children treat others the way their parents treat them. You are modeling behaviors that your child will emulate. Your relationship with your child is the foundation for her relationships with others." Rewards of Good Parenting Good parenting helps foster empathy, honesty, self-reliance, self-control, kindness, cooperation, and cheerfulness, says Steinberg. It also promotes intellectual curiosity, motivation, and encourages a desire to achieve. Good parenting also helps protect children from developing anxiety, depression, eating disorders, antisocial behavior, and alcohol and drug abuse. http://www.emedicinehealth.com/slideshow_principles_of_good_parenting/article_em.htm 当好称职父母的十大原则 引言 养育一个快乐健康的孩子既是父母一项最具挑战性的工作之一，也是一项最有意义的工作之一。 然而我们许多父母却不得要领。我们可能仅凭直觉或从我们父母哪儿学来的方法来管教孩子，而 不顾其效果如何。坦普尔大学著名心理学教授 Laurence Steinberg博士撰写的《正确养育孩子的 十大基本原则》一书，集 75年的社会科学研究之大成，为我们提供了一些技巧和指南。如作者 所言，遵循这些原则，你便可以避免孩子出现各种各样的行为问题。 你的所作所为至关重要 无论是你的自言自行还是接人待物的方式，都是你孩子学习的对象。“这是最为重要的原则之一， 你的言行可能能够产生截然不同的结果。不要一时冲动，要扪心自问：我到底想做