Bullying among young children
A g u i d e f o r p a r e n t s
AN AUSTRALIAN
GOVERNMENT INITIATIVE
This booklet is one element of a project funded by the Australian Government’s National Crime
Prevention Program.
Thanks are due to the following for their comments on the text: Andrea Rankin, Jean Rigby,
Ros Shute, Phillip Slee, Gill Westhop, Victoria Whitington and Alison Wotherspoon.
The description of bullying at preschool on page 2 is from Main, N. 1999, ‘Children’s perpetration
of violence in early childhood: beyond conflict’. Paper presented at the ‘Children and Crime: Victims
and Offenders Conference’. Australian Institute of Criminology, Brisbane, 17-18 June 1999.
The recollection described on page 2 is from Mellor, A. 1993, ‘Bullying and how to fight it’. The Scottish
Council for Research in Education, Glasgow, page 4.
Author: Ken Rigby
Adjunct Associate Professor
School of Education
University of South Australia
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Bullying among young children: A guide for parents
Australian Government Attorney-General’s Department, Canberra
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ISBN 0 642 21030 6 Bullying among young children:
A guide for teachers and carers
ISBN 0 642 21040 3 A meta-evaluation of methods and approaches to
reducing bullying in pre-schools and primary schools in Australia
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Acknowledgments
B u l l y i n g a m o n g y o u n g c h i l d r e n : A g u i d e f o r p a r e n t s
B u l l y i n g a m o n g y o u n g c h i l d r e n : A g u i d e f o r p a r e n t s
Bullying in schools is an area of considerable concern to the community and the Australian Government.
Most work on this issue relates to older children — very little has been done in relation to children
aged 4-8 years. However, research indicates that the early years of life are a crucial time for the
development of an individual’s health and wellbeing.
This means we must learn how to address problem behaviours such as bullying as early in a young
person’s life as possible, to reduce the risk of long-term damage.
A child who has been the victim of bullying can experience problems with their physical and
psychological health, educational attainment and social development.
Of equal concern, a child who bullies another child is at risk of becoming involved in criminal or
anti-social behaviour later in life.
As many as one child in six in Australia is bullied by another child or group of children on a weekly
basis — an alarming statistic given the possible consequences.
It is important that teachers, carers and parents recognise bullying behaviours and work together to help
children who bully and children who are bullied learn to live and play together in a healthy, positive way.
The Australian Government is committed to helping children get off to the best start possible, and is
developing a National Agenda for Early Childhood to support this goal. The Government has also provided
national leadership in producing the ‘National Safe Schools Framework’ with the support of the
States and Territories. The Framework provides an agreed national approach to help schools and
their communities address issues of bullying, harassment, violence and child abuse and neglect.
It emphasises the importance of parents and teachers working together to create safer, more supportive
learning environments. The Government has committed $4.5 million to fund specific teacher professional
development, school grants and resources in support of the Framework.
Bullying is a significant issue and resources to address it are a very practical and important place to
begin. Every child deserves to grow up in a safe, healthy, well-balanced and supportive environment.
We are all responsible for ensuring this happens.
The National Crime Prevention Program has funded this information booklet and another for
teachers, as well as a 30-minute video featuring early childhood educators and parents who have
had to deal with bullying among young children, to help you handle bullying among the children in
your care.
Chris Ellison
Minister for Justice and Customs
Senator for Western Australia
Foreword
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B u l l y i n g a m o n g y o u n g c h i l d r e n : A g u i d e f o r p a r e n t s
1 Introduction
2 Bullying in early educational settings
3 What exactly is bullying?
4 Identifying bullying
5 Children watching bullying
6 Parents encouraging children to help
the bullied child
7 The child who is victimised
8 How parents can help the bullied child
9 The child who bullies others
10 How parents can help the child
who bullies
11 Parents working with teachers
12 Resources to help parents
Contents
In every setting where children come together,
whether it is school, preschool, kindergarten or
childcare, bullying can be observed. It has always
been so. The difference is that these days we
are seeing that for some children bullying is a
serious problem that needs to be addressed not
only by teachers and carers but by the whole
community. Parents of young children have an
especially important part to play.
In Australia, on average one child in six is bullied
by another child or a group of children on a
weekly basis. Sometimes the bullying is not very
severe and may consist mainly of mild teasing
and non-inclusion in some activities. Some
children take it in their stride and are not unduly
bothered. But if the bullying goes on, as it
sometimes does, for months and even years,
then even the most resilient children may become
miserable, angry and hate being at preschool or
school. On occasions children are assaulted by
a stronger child or by groups of children, or utterly
excluded, and this can be profoundly upsetting.
It is of deep concern to many parents when
children are treated badly by their peers and
become depressed, sometimes ill or even suicidal.
There is also concern about children who
bully others.
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Among children who bully, some are very
unhappy. Unless someone helps, the risk is
that they may grow up to do further harm to
others as well as themselves.
This booklet is intended to help parents who
are worried because their child is being bullied
or because their child is bullying others.
The booklet also seeks to encourage every
parent to help make their child’s school or
centre a happier and safer place.
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Many children experience bullying behaviour
at an early age. Even at preschools and
kindergartens bullying can be observed. Here,
for example, is a description of one incident
from among hundreds recorded by a research
psychologist at preschools in Australia.
‘Jim (a preschool boy) goes over to the corner
where Sal is playing with a group of girls on
a pile of pillows. He growls at them, puts his
face very close to theirs and grimaces. They
scream and grab the pillows around them.
Jim tells them to share the pillows. He then
lies down on the pillows and the girls say “we
had them first”. Jim does not respond and the
girls move away, going back only to retrieve
their shoes. Jim then moves from the pillows
and gets a piece of string. He grabs Sybi and
puts the string around her neck, pulling it
around her neck. Sybi cries. A member of
staff comes over and tells him to play with
Ian. He turns to Sybi and says “cry baby”. Jim
then goes over to Melanie and, while smiling,
pulls her hair.’
Such bullying behaviour must be stopped not
only for the sake of Sybi and Melanie and all
other children who find themselves in similar
positions, but also for the good of children
like Jim.
People often have sad memories of being
bullied when they were children at school,
as in this recollection:
“When I was at primary school I got picked on
non-stop for two years. No-one talked to me.
I hadn’t done anything to get blamed for and
I still don’t know the reason I got picked on.
I wasn’t any wealthier or poorer or from a
different race. I used to cry myself to sleep
every night. I was miserable … I’d hate to
think this was happening to anyone else.”
Parents of children who attend preschools,
kindergartens and primary schools need to
work closely with teachers to help recognise
and address problems of bullying behaviour as
soon as they arise – and before it is too late.
Bullying in early educational settings2
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What exactly is bullying?3
T h e s e a r e s o m e o f t h e w a y s
a c h i l d m a y b e b u l l i e d b y
p e e r s a t s c h o o l :
• A child may be physically bullied by being
continually struck or pushed around by
another person or group.
• There may be repeated threats of what is
going to happen next.
• Property may frequently be taken away
or damaged.
• The bullying may be verbal, as in unpleasant
name-calling and constant ridicule.
• A child may be bullied indirectly as happens
when someone is excluded from an activity
without reason or nasty rumours are spread
about her or him.
Bullying may be carried out in any or all of
these ways.
Parents need to be clear about what bullying
is – and what it is not.
It is not about children of roughly the same
strength or power arguing or quarrelling or
getting into the odd fight about something.
Bullying occurs when somebody who is less
powerful than another person or a group is
deliberately and (typically) repeatedly hurt
without in any way deserving that treatment.
The children doing the bullying enjoy what they
are doing and the victim is unable to avoid
being bullied.
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It commonly begins when a child is ‘picked on’
by another child or by a group of children, is
unable to resist and lacks the support of others.
It will continue if the children doing the bullying
have little or no sympathy for the child they are
hurting, and especially if they are getting some
pleasure out of what they are doing – and if
nobody stops them.
It takes place mostly outside the centre or
school building at free play, recess or lunchtime.
It may also happen on the way to or from the
school or centre, and especially on the school
bus if there is not adequate supervision.
Bullying may sometimes occur in the classroom.
Here it is usually of a more subtle, non-physical
kind, such as cruel teasing, making faces at
someone or repeatedly making unkind and
sarcastic comments.
Identifying bullying is sometimes not easy.
Carers or teachers are often not present when
it happens, and children are often reluctant to
tell anyone.
Bullying needs to be brought out into the open.
Parents should encourage children who are
being bullied to tell and get help from people
they can trust.
Identifying bullying4
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Children watching bullying5
If bystanders acted to discourage bullying when
it occurred, much of the bullying would stop.
In some circumstances there are risks involved
in intervening when someone is being bullied.
With the help of parents and teachers children
can learn when it is safe to intervene and how
they can do so.
Bullying usually takes place when other children
are present. What do these bystanders do?
• Commonly they simply stand there and watch.
This may lead the bullies to think that nobody
objects to what they are doing.
• Sometimes they positively encourage the bully
or bullies, either by cheering them on, or in
some cases joining in and ridiculing the victim.
• In a minority of cases someone may object
by calling out to say it is unfair and should
be stopped.
• Very occasionally, a child may go off and tell
a teacher or carer what's happening.
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While it can sometimes be dangerous to rush in
to restrain children who are attacking someone,
a child can often do constructive things to
counter the bullying and its effects on some
children, such as:
• Expressing disapproval by refusing to be
amused at what is happening; even walking
away is better than just standing there.
• Informing adults when an incident of bullying
occurs. It is not ‘dobbing’ to tell a teacher or
carer. Children who are being bullied need to
be helped by adults.
• Helping to resolve conflicts between children
when they arise. Conflicts can sometimes
lead to bullying. Some schools now teach
children conflict resolution skills. Encourage
children to apply what they have learnt.
• Offering comfort and support afterwards to
a child who has been bullied.
Parents encouraging children to help the bullied child6
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Any child can become a victim. Unfortunately the
child who is victimised often thinks it is because
there is something wrong or unacceptable
about himself or herself. And this is not so.
It is true that some children are more likely to
be bullied than others. Often they are quiet,
sensitive children who easily become anxious
and find it hard to defend themselves. Sometimes
they belong to a group against which there is
strong prejudice, for example, a minority ethnic
group. Or they may be different from most other
children in appearance or interest.
If the bullying is severe and prolonged and the
targeted child is unable to overcome the problem
or get help, the following can happen:
The child who is victimised7
• The child may lose confidence and self-esteem.
• He or she may lose friends and become isolated.
• The child may become seriously depressed,
disturbed or ill.
• The child may refuse to go to preschool
or school.
• School work may suffer.
• The child may seek revenge and (in extreme
cases) may use a weapon to get even.
• For years to come the child may distrust
others and find it impossible to make friends.
Such a child needs support and help, especially
from parents.
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Parents can help by being observant and noticing
changes in mood and behaviour. For instance, a
child may cry more easily, become irritable or
experience difficulty sleeping. Younger children
may find it difficult to explain what is wrong. Talking
it over with a child’s teacher or carer may lead
to a better understanding of what is happening.
Simply listening sympathetically helps. Such
support can reduce the pain and misery. It never
helps to say it’s the child’s problem and that he
or she must simply stand up to the bullies, whatever
the situation. Sometimes this course of action
is impractical, especially if a group is involved.
Nor does it help the child to be over-protective,
for example, by saying: ‘Never mind. I will look
after you. You don’t have to go to school’.
Here are some suggestions for talking with the
child and trying to understand the situation
from the child's point of view:
• Find out what has been happening and how
the child has been reacting and feeling.
• Suggest to the child things to do when he or
she is picked on. Sometimes by acting
How parents can help the bullied child8
assertively or not over-reacting, the bullying
can be stopped. It is always much better if
children, with a bit of good advice, can do
something to help themselves.
• Explore with the child what leads up to the
bullying. Very occasionally a child may be
provoking others by annoying or irritating
them, and can learn not to do so.
• Sometimes it is wise to discuss with the child
what places it might be best to avoid, and,
on occasions, whom to stay close to in
threatening situations.
• Make a realistic assessment of the seriousness
of the bullying and plan accordingly.
It is serious if the child is being assaulted, is
afraid to go to school, kindergarten or the child
care centre, is continually emotionally upset,
can't sleep, can't concentrate, or is complaining
of feeling sick or ill. In these cases, it is
necessary to contact the place the child attends
and seek help.
It is wise to resist any urge to sort out the
problem directly with those who are doing the
bullying. This usually makes matters worse.
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Children who bully are generally unconcerned
about the people they hurt. Indeed they may
enjoy hurting those they victimise. However,
individual children may bully for different
reasons, and it is useful for parents to know,
if at all possible, why they are doing it.
Those who bully in a group often think they are
just having fun. They do not seem fully aware
of the hurt they are personally responsible for
inflicting, because they are just going along with
the group.
Some children who bully feel hurt themselves,
sometimes because of unkind treatment in the
home, and seek to take it out on somebody
whom they can bully.
In some cases, children bully because they are
trying to get even with somebody. It could be a
person who used to be a friend against whom
they now have a grudge.
A child may bully because he or she believes
that members of some groups or types deserve
to be treated badly, because of their race or
ethnicity, their interests or their appearance.
Such prejudice is at the root of much bullying.
Some children may bully because they get
admired for bossing people around - and it
makes them feel good, and safe from being
bullied themselves.
The child who bullies others9
Sometimes (but not always) they are impulsive
children who find it hard to control their anger.
They may lack the social skills to get on with
people, although some are clever and
manipulative.
Among children who bully there are some who
are very unhappy. Often they have not learned
to be cooperative and responsible individuals.
Knowing why a child bullies never excuses the
bullying behaviour, but it can sometimes help
parents know how best to change the way the
child behaves.
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When children start preschool or school they
experience
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