seven habits of highly effective people in detail

nullnullTo Aquire the 7 HabitsTo Aquire the 7 HabitsBe willing to : Learn It Teach It Do It Apply it to Your LifenullParadigmParadigmThe way and individual perceives, understands, and interprets the surrounding world. A mental map.HabitHabitKnowledge What to, Why to Skill How to Desire Want tonullKnowledge (what to, why to)Desire (want to)Skills (how to)HABITSEFFECTIVE HABITSEffectivenessEffectivenessP/PC Balance : The Principle of Effectiveness Production The desired results produced Production Capability Maintaining, preserving and enhancing the resources that produces the desired resultsThe Maturity ContinuumThe Maturity ContinuumCharacter & PersonalityCharacter & PersonalityAlthough image, techniques and skills can influence your outward success, the weight of real effectiveness lies in good character.Character & CompetenceCharacter & CompetenceCharacter A person with high character exhibits integrity, maturity and an Abundance Mentality. Competence A person with high competence has knowledge and ability in a given area. As people balance these two elements, they build their personal trustworthiness and their trust with others.Character & CompetenceCharacter & CompetenceCharacterCompetencenullJUDGEMENTCHARACTER  Integrity  Maturity  Abundance Mentality  InterdependencyCOMPETENCE  Technical skills  Qualifications  Knowledge  ExperiencenullEMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNTnullnullnullnullIndependenceDependenceInterdependencePUBLIC VICTORYPRIVATE VICTORYSeek First to Understand … Then to be UnderstoodSynergizeThink Win/WinPut First Things FirstBe ProactiveBegin with the End in MindSharpen the SawTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMHabit One : Be Proactive The Habit of Personal VisionHabit One : Be Proactive The Habit of Personal VisionResponsibility Response + Ability Effective people take responsibility of their own actions. Their behavior is a product of their own decisions.Habit One : Be Proactive The Habit of Personal VisionHabit One : Be Proactive The Habit of Personal VisionCharacteristics of a Proactive Person Respond according to values Accept responsibility for their own behavior Focus on their Circle of InfluenceHabit One : Be Proactive The Habit of Personal VisionHabit One : Be Proactive The Habit of Personal VisionReactive Behavior Reactive people allow outside influences (moods, feelings or circumstances) to control their responses. StimulusResponseHabit One : Be Proactive The Habit of Personal VisionHabit One : Be Proactive The Habit of Personal VisionProactive Behavior Proactive people use the margin of freedom to make choices that best apply their values. Their freedom to choose expands as they wisely use the space between stimulus and response. StimulusResponseFreedom to Choose According to ValuesnullPROACTIVE MODEL Stimulus Response Freedom to ChooseSelf- AwarenessImaginationConscienceIndependent WillHabit One : Be Proactive The Habit of Personal VisionHabit One : Be Proactive The Habit of Personal VisionTheories of Determinism Reactive people blame their attitude and behavior on things they think they cannot control. They respond to stimulus, often attributing their behavior to three determinants : Genetic - Traits we inherited Psychic - Our upbringing Environmental - Our surroundingsnullnullHabit One : Be Proactive The Habit of Personal VisionHabit One : Be Proactive The Habit of Personal VisionThe Four Human Endowments Self-Awareness – Examining thoughts, moods and behaviors Imagination – Visualizing beyond experience and present reality (work on alternatives) Conscience – Understanding right and wrong and following personal integrity Independent Will – Acting independent of external influencenullnullIndependenceDependenceInterdependencePUBLIC VICTORYPRIVATE VICTORYSeek First to Understand … Then to be UnderstoodSynergizeThink Win/WinPut First Things FirstBe ProactiveBegin with the End in MindSharpen the SawTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMHabit Two Begin with the End in Mind The Habit of Personal LeadershipHabit Two Begin with the End in Mind The Habit of Personal LeadershipMental Creation Precedes Physical Creation To start with a clear understanding of your destination. Write your MISSION STATEMENT Choose a Life CenterHabit Two Begin with the End in Mind The Habit of Personal LeadershipHabit Two Begin with the End in Mind The Habit of Personal LeadershipHabit Two Begin with the End in Mind The Habit of Personal LeadershipHabit Two Begin with the End in Mind The Habit of Personal LeadershipPrinciple-Centered Someone who is principle-centered bases decisions on principles that govern human effectiveness. Principles are the ideal core because they allow us to seek the best alternative through conscious choice, knowledge and values. Principle-centered people try to : Stand apart from the emotion of a situation and from other factors that would act on them. Make proactive choices after evaluating options.Habit Two Begin with the End in Mind The Habit of Personal LeadershipHabit Two Begin with the End in Mind The Habit of Personal LeadershipMission Statement A powerful document that expresses your personal sense of Purpose and meaning in life. It acts as a governing Constitution by which you evaluate decisions and choose behaviors.Define Leadership & ManagementDefine Leadership & ManagementLeadership deals with Direction Management deals with Speed, Co-ordination, Logistics in moving in that directionnullnullIndependenceDependenceInterdependencePUBLIC VICTORYPRIVATE VICTORYSeek First to Understand … Then to be UnderstoodSynergizeThink Win/WinPut First Things FirstBe ProactiveBegin with the End in MindSharpen the SawTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMHabit Three Put First things First The Habit of Personal ManagementHabit Three Put First things First The Habit of Personal ManagementImportance An activity is importance if you personally find it valuable, and if it contributes to your mission values, and high-priority goals. Urgency An activity is urgent if you or others feel that it requires immediate attention. null. Crisis . Pressing problems . Deadline-driven projects, meetings, preparations. Preparation . Prevention . Values clarification . Planning . Relationship building . True re-creation . Empowerment. Interruptions, some phone calls . Some mail, some reports . Some meetings . Many proximate, pressing matters . Many popular activities. Trivia, busywork . Some phone calls . Time wasters . “Escape” activities . Irrelevant mail . Excessive TVIIIIIIIVUrgentNot UrgentImportantNot ImportantHabit Three - Put First things First The Habit of Personal ManagementHabit Three - Put First things First The Habit of Personal ManagementURGENTIMPORTANTNOT URGENTNOT IMPORTANTCrises ManagementAttach to MissionDistractionsTime WastersHabit Three - Put First things First The Habit of Personal ManagementHabit Three - Put First things First The Habit of Personal ManagementCrises Pressing problems Deadline-driven Projects, meetings, preparationsPreparation Prevention Values clarification Planning Relationship building True re-creation EmpowermentInterruptions, some phone calls Some mails, some reports Some meetings Many proximate, Pressing matters Many popular activitiesTrivia, busywork Some phone calls Time waster “Escape” activities Irrelevant mail Excessive TVURGENTIMPORTANTNOT URGENTNOT IMPORTANTHabit Three - Put First things First The Habit of Personal ManagementHabit Three - Put First things First The Habit of Personal Management“Effective people have genuine Quadrant 1 crises and emergencies that require their immediate attention, but the number is comparatively small. They keep P and PC in balance by focusing on the important, but not urgent, activities of Quadrant II”Habit Three - Put First things First The Habit of Personal ManagementHabit Three - Put First things First The Habit of Personal ManagementThings which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least. The Key is not to prioritize your schedule but to schedule your priorities. Habit Three - Put First things First The Habit of Personal ManagementHabit Three - Put First things First The Habit of Personal ManagementPut First things First involves a six-step, QII process That will help you act on the basis of importance. Importance, in the context of Put first things First, is defined By your mission statement and confirmed by your conscience. The six steps can be used in weekly planning or as often as needed.Connect to MissionReview RolesIdentify GoalsOrganize WeeklyExercise IntegrityEvaluateHabits One, Two & ThreeHabits One, Two & ThreeThe first three habits help develop a deep base of character and personal security . Once these 3 habits become part of who you are you are then ready to begin building rich enduring highly productive relationships with other people and that’s where habits four, five and six come in.nullHabits Four, Five & SixHabits Four, Five & SixThese are the habits that lead to interdependent relationships. Habit Four : Think Win-win The attitude of seeking solutions, so that every one can win. Do this by communicating. This is done by Habit FiveHabit Five : Seek first to understand, then to be understood Habit Six : This is the habit of creative co-operation - Synergy This happens when two sides in a dispute work together to come with a solution which is better than what either side initially proposed.nullnullIndependenceDependenceInterdependencePUBLIC VICTORYPRIVATE VICTORYSeek First to Understand … Then to be UnderstoodSynergizeThink Win/WinPut First Things FirstBe ProactiveBegin with the End in MindSharpen the SawTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMHabit Four – Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipHabit Four – Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipSIX PARADIGMS OF HUMAN INTERACTIONWin-WinWin-LoseLose-WinLose-LoseWinWin-Win or No-DealHabit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipHabit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipWin-Win : People who choose to win and make sure others also win - practice win-win. People with a win-win paradigm take time to search for solutions that will make them happy and simultaneously satisfy others. Characteristics Seeks mutual benefit Is cooperative, not competitive Listens more, stays in communication longer, and communicates with more courage.Habit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipHabit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipWin-Lose : People with a win-lose mindset are concerned with themselves first and last. They want to win, and they want others to lose. They achieve success at the expense or exclusion of another’s success. They are driven by comparison, competition, position, and power. Characteristics Is very common scripting for most people Is the authoritarian approach. Uses position, power, credentials, possessions, or personality to get the “Win”.Habit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipHabit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipLose-Win : People who choose to lose and let others win show high consideration for others, but lack the courage to express and act on their feelings and beliefs. They are easily intimidated and borrow strength from acceptance and popularity. Characteristics Voices no standards, no demands, no expectations of anyone else. Is quick to please or appease. Buries a lot of feelings.Habit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipHabit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipLose-Lose : People who have a lose-lose paradigm are low on courage and consideration. They envy and criticize others. They put themselves and others down. Characteristics Is the mindset of a highly dependent person. Is the same as a “no win” because nobody benefits. Is a long-term result of a win-lose, lose-win, or win.Habit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipHabit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipWin : People who hold a win paradigm think only of getting what they want. Although they don’t necessarily want others to lose, they are personally set on winning. They think independently in interdependent situations, without sensitivity or awareness of others. Characteristics Is self-centered. Thinks “me first”. Doesn’t really care if the other person wins or loses. Has a Scarcity Mentality”.Habit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipHabit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipWin-Win or No Deal : Win-Win or No Deal is the highest form of win-win. People who adopt this paradigm seek first for win-win. If they cannot find an acceptable solution, they agree to disagree agreeably. Characteristics Allows each party to say no. Is the most realistic at the beginning of a relationship or business deal. Is the highest form of “Win”.Habit Four – Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipHabit Four – Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipFOUR DIMENSIONS OF WIN-WINCharacterRelationshipsAgreementsSystems & ProcessesIntegrity,Maturity,Abundance MentalityTrust, EBAMutual CommitmentDeep Understanding of Issues & ConcernsHabit Four – Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipHabit Four – Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership1 – Win-Win CharacterIntegrity – People of Integrity are true to their feelings, values and commitments.Maturity – Mature people express their ideas and feelings with courage and with consideration for the ideas and feelings of others.RelationshipsAbundance Mentality – People with an Abundance Mentality believe that there is plenty for everyone.Habit Four – Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipHabit Four – Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership2 – Win-Win RelationshipsDemonstrate consistent actions that convince people that they have a well-earned reputation for honesty, integrity and loyalty. Their actions are consistent with their behaviour, decisions and position.Believe in the best of other peopleDisclose – help others understand their positions, behavior and decisions.Communicate clear expectations.Seek other ideas and listen with empathy.Are accurate, timely and honest in communication.Treat people with respect and respond to others’ needs.Focus on the positive, but provide constructive feedback on improvement areas.Habit Four – Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipHabit Four – Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership3 – Win-Win AgreementsElements of Win-Win AgreementsDesired Results : Clarify the end in mind, objectives and outcome.Guidelines : Specify boundaries and deadlines for accomplishing the results.Resources : List the human, financial, technical or organizational resources available for accomplishing the desired results.Accountability : Identify the standards and methods of measurement for progress and accomplishment.Consequences : Determine the result (s) of achieving or not achieving win-win.Habit Four – Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipHabit Four – Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership4 – Win-Win Systems and ProcessesYou can best achieve win-win solutions with win-win systems and processes. But if Changing your systems to win-win feels overwhelming and out of reach, remember to work from the inside out. As you first develop a win-win character and then Win-Win Agreements and relationships, you will expand your Circle of Influence and be Able to work on processes.nullnullIndependenceDependenceInterdependencePUBLIC VICTORYPRIVATE VICTORYSeek First to Understand … Then to be UnderstoodSynergizeThink Win/WinPut First Things FirstBe ProactiveBegin with the End in MindSharpen the SawTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMHabit Five -Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood The Habit of Empathic CommunicationHabit Five -Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood The Habit of Empathic CommunicationIgnoring Making no effort to listen Pretend Listening Making believe or giving the appearance you are listening Selective Listening Hearing only the parts of the conversation that interest you. Attentive Listening Paying attention and focusing on what the speaker says, and comparing that to your own experiences. Empathic Listening Listening and responding with both the heart and mind to understand the speaker’s words, intent and feelings.nullnullIndependenceDependenceInterdependencePUBLIC VICTORYPRIVATE VICTORYSeek First to Understand … Then to be UnderstoodSynergizeThink Win/WinPut First Things FirstBe ProactiveBegin with the End in MindSharpen the SawTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMHabit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationHabit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationSynergy The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Synergy takes place when two or more people produce more together than the sum of what they could have produces separately.Habit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationHabit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationTo Synergize is Results-oriented, positive synergy Examining exploring, seeking diverse perspectives openly enough to alter or complete your paradigm Cooperating Having a mutually agreed-upon end in mind. Worth the effort and highly effective A process.To Synergize is Not A brainstorming free-for-all. Accepting others’ ideas as full truth. Win-lose competition. Group think (giving in to peer pressure). Always easy. Only a negotiation technique.Habit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationHabit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationProblem or OpportunitySynergize Habits 4,5, & 6 The Action and ProcessThird Alternative SYNERGY The ResultHabit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationHabit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationDefensivenessFearFixationEgoAngerAnxietyJealousyHabit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationHabit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationThe essence of synergy is valuing the differences. Valuing the differences does not imply that individuals approve of or agree with differences; however it does mean that people respect differences and view them as opportunities for learning. The differing opinions of others and their viewpoints, perspectives, talents and gifts are valuable when seeking solutions. These differences enable you to discover and produce things together that you would much less likely discover and produce individually. At what level do you value the differences ?Habit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationHabit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationTolerateAcceptValueCelebratenullnullIndependenceDependenceInterdependencePUBLIC VICTORYPRIVATE VICTORYSeek First to Understand … Then to be UnderstoodSynergizeThink Win/WinPut First Things FirstBe ProactiveBegin with the End in MindSharpen the SawTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMHabit Seven - Sharpen the Saw The Habit of RenewalHabit Seven - Sharpen the Saw The Habit of RenewalSharpen the Saw is a daily process of renewing for four dimensions of our nature : Physical, Mental, Spiritual and Social / Emotional. These four dimensions sustain and increase our capacities and help us discipline our mind, body and spirit. This daily private victory is a victory over self. Not only does the daily Private victory stimulate growth, but it also helps us to achieve the Public Victory. As we achieve these victories through renewal, we cultivate and nurture the other six habits.Habit Seven - Sharpen the Saw The Habit of RenewalHabit Seven - Sharpen the Saw The Habit of Renewal Physical (Body): We build physical wellness through proper nutrition, exercise, rest And stress management. We can sharpen the Saw in Four Areas : Mental (Mind) : We increase mental capacit